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In our 21 year journey of parenting and home educating our family, we have tried to let our 6 children experience many activities from art to music to photography and filmmaking, various sports, shooting, hunting, traveling, attending camps where they learn about civics and leadership, serving in the church and the community. We hope they will each find things they enjoy and fulfill God’s purpose in their lives. Some are “good” at some things and others thrive when serving or reading or doing community service. We have pursued some “competitive ” things and most of my children have won awards, elections, ribbons for something, have shot a bullseye or graced a stage.

This year our oldest son is attending school  in the 9th grade for the first time and playing a few organized sports that he has never played other than in the backyard or a small co-op. He’s slight for his age and has often been marginalized and bullied due to his smaller stature.

This week he got to play for 4 minutes in a varsity basketball tournament and he took a great 3 point shot from pretty far out. The ball went in and out of the hoop and did not make it in. My honest thought as a mom was, “I am so proud of him for taking that shot”.  I wished it would have gone in as I know that would have blessed his heart. I have noticed some other parents sort of looking at me at the games this year with pity, since my son sits on the bench most of the time, and I have gotten looks and comments from some other parents that let me know they feel sorry for me. It happened during football when he made a little mistake on a play as well. One of the other “student athletes” went so far recently as to say “Oh yeah, your son hardly ever gets in the game even on JV.” I smiled and said “He’s a really good sport and wants to support the team, and honestly, he is here for the people” It’s true, my son loves to be with people and is happy to be part of a team, he realizes that we did not “specialize” in sports when he was young and he’s not tall, or built or super aggressive in sports. He enjoys playing and being with friends.

The other night after the car ride home from a game 2 1/2 hours a way ( yes I drove 6 hours to attend a game where my son played the last 4 minutes of a game with a 40 point margin in the score) my son said to me ” Mom, thanks for not caring that I am not that great at sports, you never yell at me if I mess up and you encourage me to try my best, but you never criticize how I do.”

Okay, I can just cry now and know that my non aggressive and low competitive nature when it comes to my kids is okay. My kids are awesome, I am happy if they love the players and love the game.

Never feel sorry for me or my kids. We are doing just fine on the bench and in the stands watching and cheering for your kids if that’s their thing. Hope you do the same when it’s others turn to shine.

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What is the price to move on up
To the Room with a View
Overlooking a body of water,
Or a lodge where the river runs through?
Will a soul be sold to sit in a box above a field of play
To taste higher quality food,
Walk in better brands of shoes?
To access seats at the tables of power
Lie between silk sheets,
Take part in meetings with sheiks.
Climbers who scale the social strata
Some with work and ideas,
Others with leveraged beauty
Words of cleverness bending the right ears.
Is the hustle worth it?
Or is contentment with a simple life under encouraged?
Seek your passions!
Take what you can!
Grab the golden ring and hold on to all you have!
Those who become rich or who seek it’s pleasure, fall into the temptations of fear
Of falling back into places of non-existence in the courts of power filled men
Or being forced into the drudgery of frugal livings lowly din
Snares, snares like drums pound away in the mind
Drawing those beats and hearts away from the central principles of life.

When did life become an ongoing production complete with costumes and props
When did church become a worship “experience” instead of a community for relationships and a place to rest from the war
When did education become all about the presentation or the test to show off all you crammed into your head
Only to drop it out in relief when you are allowed to take a breath
Everyones hustling, busting their butts, to get to the next event
We even pay money to get t-shirt’s to show that we run for fun
We wear stacks of plastic bracelets to promote each cause
The show goes on and on and on
It’s like we are always auditioning for the next step up
Being evaluated to see if we can make the cut
Every meal, every visit to the gym, every trip to a church building
If your not going vertical, or if you are content, someone is gonna be looking to knock you off, take your market share
Keep your game up, don’t leave the stage
Or somebody’s right there to take your place
Leave you on the outside, factionless, underpaid