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If we desire to develop and maintain positive and life giving relationships with others, it is important to discover our own capacity and then to learn to read that of others. One of the lost relational skills is the ability to tell when someone is overwhelmed. We need to have people in our lives who have the ability to read non-verbal cues that show when others are over capacity and download that skill from a more mature mind. It is part of God’s design that parents and older people will impart this skill into the lives of their children and community during infancy.

If a parent does not possess this skill and a child is in a disorganized, distracted or dismissive style home, that child may miss this important download and will struggle to gain healthy balance in knowing their own capacity and that of others.

Learning to recognize and respect overwhelm can be learned by being part of a joyful community where the members love one another and where the stronger and more mature minds and willing to enter in and spend time with those who may be weaker in some areas. Living in joy with others means we are glad to be together in spite of our, “malfunctions”.

We are a culture over capacity, and it’s time to take a breather and find out what we need to do to THRIVE and live in JOY.

To learn more about JOYFUL relationships and the skills you need to THRIVE.

http://www.joystartshere.com

http://www.joystartshere.com/thrivetraining/

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If a friend will not take up your cause
Or risk their own comfort for your survival
If they leave you alone in distress
Only take from you what is easy and gainful
Won’t walk even the first mile in less than perfect weather
Best you know soon and walk on alone
Keep up acquaintance
But hold your heart and your secrets
For the true blue
Who love you in the good
Stand by when darkness threatens overhead
Friends to be trusted with the heart are so rare
When found
Lock arms and shelter
Give your best in their worst
Be all you desire in a friend
Even if someone you do right
Does wrong along the way
If you’ve given love’s treasures
They are sure to find the path back
Sow with reaping in view

Too little too late
Nothing at all
Gaps of kindness
Throw it into
A free fall
Once the words are spoken
The look of disregard
Neglect, failure to see
It can blast a chasm so wide
Or erode a natural bridge
Meant to uphold many feet
Back turns
Door locks
Key thrown into the canyon or buried at sea
Knowing the truth sets you free
Once you have walked away
Looking back holds no possibility

We live in a day
No matter what you say
Someone is gonna jump down your throat
Tell you your wrong
Dissect your words
Read in between lines that aren’t even drawn
If you stand up for what is right
Or share your heart
There will be a hater nearby
Or someone writing to you from afar
It may be a friend
Or a friend of an acquaintance
Having a bad day or just looking to vent anger
They may not know your story
Those who do, may not care
As long as they get to have some time on the air
So speak your piece in peace
Stand for what you believe
Be kind to those who oppose
Yet, don’t be afraid to call foul or be a referee
If the dissenter is foolish, or off the mark,
If they just want an argument to hear the sound of their own voice.
Or to see their words in print, opposing yours
Flee away, don’t waste your breath or the stroke of the key
Let your words of graciousness
Be what you are remembered for in the age of too much speech.

“When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable,
But he who restrains his lips is wise.” Proverbs 10:19

Can time tear the heart from it’s mooring
Life’s weariness break the bonds of an intentional love story
Is there rest when ripping winds
Pull through the sails, the bow bending
Waves come across so stern
Voices of moments past crying out
Good times and bad all merge in chorus
Will the memories hold together against tides relentlessness
The salty water of prayer filled tears fall on the deck
Preserving the lives of those on the ship
When it leans again into the break
Still intact
The passengers clinging to the mast
Holding on below
Praying that hull won’t crack
Sick on the sea sometimes
The ride is rough
Then from the midst of the tempest
Comes the voice of peace
Saying “Be still, Divine love can calm the wildest sea.”

Wanna write my own story sometimes
Leave out the sad
Make it all happy
Erase the chapters where things turn bad
Leave off the parts where human frailty causes suffering and pain
Get to that fairy tale ending without all the trouble and strain
Letting life unfold in dramatic detail is unnerving, suspenseful,
The struggle is real
After bitter they say can come sweet
If you root out the feelings that seek to take you underneath
No ones life is in their own control
No matter how much money or power or beauty they hold
A wonderful life means learning to suffer well
To overcome the many negatives common to all
Even if we could fully manage
ourselves
Do every little thing perfect
We can never do that to anyone else
Our lives depend on relationships
That live and breathe
Some die, or change or fail miserably
Living in Joy and Peace requires rebound and commitment to release
Being able to let go, let God, get on, not give up
It takes skill and love, being both tender and tough
No one can write their tale end to beginning
The plot twists will come just from living

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