Don’t mistake your first crush for your real love
Don’t let one that got away get in the way of the one who will stay
Don’t let a bruise that smarts stop you from living whole hearted
Don’t let rejection keep you so self-protected
Don’t wait too long, don’t rush in too soon
Don’t be afraid of loves binding you
Do guard yourself against lesser passions
Do value the gifts you possess, you are smashing
Do take time to know yourself
Do open your eyes to love’s possibilities around you
Don’t get caught up in one type
Be flexible enough to let God give you what’s right
Do wait for the one who will be true and save the best of yourself
You will never regret not being foolish or holding out


Some things a woman can do to destroy her marriage or make her husband sorry he married her:


Be unfaithful, shame him





Act like she rules the roost and runs the show beyond her sphere

Speak harshly to people around her

Express ungratefulness for her husbands provision and be real vocal about it

Talk trash about her husband to other people

Disrespect him with her words and actions

Fail to meet his true needs by withholding what she can and should give him

Be lazy

Let herself go too far in appearance showing she does not care to please her husband

Overspend and drag the house down into debt

Keep the house in chaos and disarray,

Fail to properly train the children so they become a shame and a disgrace


Remedy-  Proverbs 31- The Message, just to shake it up!




 A good woman is hard to find, 

   and worth far more than diamonds.


Her husband trusts her without reserve, 

   and never has reason to regret it.


Never spiteful, she treats him generously 

   all her life long.


She shops around for the best yarns and cottons, 

   and enjoys knitting and sewing.


She’s like a trading ship that sails to faraway places 

   and brings back exotic surprises.


She’s up before dawn, preparing breakfast 

   for her family and organizing her day.


She looks over a field and buys it, 

   then, with money she’s put aside, plants a garden.


First thing in the morning, she dresses for work, 

   rolls up her sleeves, eager to get started.

She senses the worth of her work, 

   is in no hurry to call it quits for the day.


She’s skilled in the crafts of home and hearth, 

   diligent in homemaking.


She’s quick to assist anyone in need, 

   reaches out to help the poor.


She doesn’t worry about her family when it snows; 

   their winter clothes are all mended and ready to wear.


She makes her own clothing, 

   and dresses in colorful linens and silks.


Her husband is greatly respected 

   when he deliberates with the city fathers.


She designs gowns and sells them, 

   brings the sweaters she knits to the dress shops.


Her clothes are well-made and elegant, 

   and she always faces tomorrow with a smile.


When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say, 

   and she always says it kindly.


She keeps an eye on everyone in her household, 

   and keeps them all busy and productive.


Her children respect and bless her; 

   her husband joins in with words of praise:


“Many women have done wonderful things, 

   but you’ve outclassed them all!”


Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades. 

   The woman to be admired and praised 

   is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God.


Give her everything she deserves! 

   Festoon her life with praises!



May we be as she, the Proverbs 31, lady.





July 16, 2011

What is the heart of a True Gentle Man?

A gentle man he cares for the heart

He is tender and wise, he is generous and kind.

He thinks of the feelings of those entrusted to his care

Working hard and diligently, he is even tempered and fair

He provides what is needed and looks ahead to protect

Not only the heart, but all of the rest

A man of manner is not just one who does things for show

Opening doors with zeal and bowing low

If it is only honor for the code of honors sake

A man may seem genteel but not be for real

If the things he does are to make himself feel

As though he is better than all the rest

By following some archaic rules not felt in his breast

A true gentle man thinks not too much of himself

For he is concerned with others and how he may help

His life is one of service no matter what level

He does not puff with pride over things he has bettered

Humility and truth reside in his chest

In place of superior thoughts of his quest to be best

Should a woman find a gentle man

Who offers his heart and asks for her hand

She is wise to value the tender and thoughtful

Passing over those with merely sensual bravado